Pity Party: When Low Self-Esteem Becomes a Weapon

Addictive and Alcoholic Behavior: Bullying and Using Low Self-Esteem as a Weapon
Bullying and alcoholic addictive behavior use low self-esteem as a crutch and an excuse for behavior. 'Don't expect much from me; I'm suffering.'Alcoholic behavior, when confronted, often turns low self-esteem into a crutch and a weapon.
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How to Detach from Stinking Thinking, Bullying, Codependency

How to Detach from Bullying, Stinkin Thinkin and Alcoholic Addictive Behavior
Whether you live with an alcoholic addictive person, or just someone who acts like one, with dry drunk, stinkin thinkin bully behavior, detachment is the key. To detach means to disconnect from and stay away from behavior which is sick and crazy.
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Alanon and the Blame Shame Game

Understanding How to Play the Blame Shame Game
The Blame-Shame Game is a term used in psychology and 12-Step recovery programs to explain behavior that is prompted by blame or shame. The blame-shame game is an avoidance and projection coping mechanism. Here's what it looks like and how to avoid it.
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Why Do Bullies Act they Way They Do?

What Does a Bully Look like and Why Do People Bully?
Bullies believe that they are not bound by the same rules to which they bind others. This is referred to as the 'two sets of rules': one set for the bully and one set for everyone else. The bully controls both sets of rules and changes them as he wishes.
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AA Slogans for Emotional Health: Keep it Clean

Relationship and Emotional Health Help: Alanon Slogan 'Keep it Clean'
Al-Anon and AA (Alchoholics Anonymous)provide a great toolkit for emotional health. It's called the Al-Anon Slogans. Part of recovery from addiction or emotional illness includes 'Keeping it clean' in relationships.
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Quitting Antidepressants and Relearning Self-Care

Recovering from SSRI Antidepressants: Learning to Practice Self-Care Without Medication
A big part of coming off from anti-depressants involves learning to take care of yourself with medication. It's easy to forget self-care and rely on medication to cope with depressive issues. Quitting anti-depressants means  rethinking self-care habits.
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Toxic Shame vs. Healthy Guilt:

What is Toxic Shame and How Does it Differ from Healthy Guilt?
What is shame? Shame is good, healthy guilt that has gone bad. Shame is also organic guilt with no foundation in reality. Guilt as a limit switch for unhealthy behavior, is healthy, when it remains in proportion and is

 merited.
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Relationship Issues: Why Your Partner May Be Cooling Off Toward You

Relationship Issues: Why is My Spouse Turning Away from Me?
My spouse is turning away from me, what do I do? Are you engaging in toxic behaviors? Stinkin thinkin? Do you think everyone owes you something, and you're a miserable angry grouch? Might have something to do with it, ya think?
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What Makes a Sociopath?

Psychology and Mental Health Issues: Do People Become Sociopaths Because of Past Trauma?
Do you ever get tired of hearing after a crime has been committed that the perpetrator was 'off his meds' or 'had a difficult childhood' or some other excuse for his behavior? It doesn't follow that experiencing struggles produces sociopathic behavior.
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Paxil and SSRI Antidepressant Weight Gain Issues

Want to Lose Weight? Get Off the Anti-Depressants
For the first 40 years of my life, I a) maintained a constant weight of 130 pounds even after four babies and b) did not take anti-depressants. In 2003, I went on Paxil after the loss of a baby. Since then I've been steadily gaining weight.
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