It's so easy, when facing a painful situation, to hide from negative feelings. But anger, frustration, pain, suffering guide us. Doctors say when recommending treatment to 'let pain be your guide'. This works in co-dependent recovery, too.
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Codependent Recovery: Let Pain Be Your Guide
It's so easy, when facing a painful situation, to hide from negative feelings. But anger, frustration, pain, suffering guide us. Doctors say when recommending treatment to 'let pain be your guide'. This works in co-dependent recovery, too.
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Codependent Recovery: Don't Volunteer to Be a Victim
It's foolish and cruel to say that people 'bring pain on themselves.' We aren't given the ability to foretell the future, so there is no way to know what direction any given situation will take. However, we don't have to volunteer to be a victim.
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AA and Alanon Slogan and Recovery: But for the Grace of God
The 12 Step AA and Al-Anon programs describes their beliefs this way: 'spiritual but not religious'. We recognize a Higher Power in AA and Al-Anon, whom some of us choose to call God. 'But for the Grace of God' refers to our higher power.
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AA Sayings, Alanon Slogans and Recovery: Just for Today
AA Saying, Alanon Slogans: Just for Today
AA and Alanon are known for their 12 Step program which guide recovering alcoholics and co-dependent people through self-help steps. AA and Al Anon also use slogans and sayings in the recovery process. 'Just for Today' is a popular AA and Alanon slogan.
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AA and Alanon Slogans: Using HALT for Depression, Codependent Behavior and Detachment
In working a 12-step program like AA and Al-Anon, an important recovery and self-help tool is the acronym HALT. Whenever I feel Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, I need to HALT, identify this need and address it. Here's how HALT works.
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Alcoholic Addictive and Dry Drunk Crazy Making Behavior
Communication Skills in Alcoholic Addictive Behavior
Alcoholic and addictive behavior makes for very poor communication skills. Addict talk in confusing and often counter-productive. Alcoholic behavior doesn't listen to others. Addicts are self-centered and often unable to maintain relationships.
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Codependent Enabling Behavior, Recovery and Detachment
Codependent Enabling Behavior in Response to Alcoholic Addictive Behavior What is codependent or enabling behavior? Codependent behavior fuels alcoholic stinkin' thinkin' (toxic addictive thoughts that impell the non-addict to try and fix the addict's behavior). Enabling behavior is fueld by stinkin thinkin. Co-dependents care-take, ignore the elephant in the living room and excuse crazy behavior. Read More
Pity Party: When Low Self-Esteem Becomes a Weapon
Addictive and Alcoholic Behavior: Bullying and Using Low Self-Esteem as a Weapon
Bullying and alcoholic addictive behavior use low self-esteem as a crutch and an excuse for behavior. 'Don't expect much from me; I'm suffering.'Alcoholic behavior, when confronted, often turns low self-esteem into a crutch and a weapon.
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How to Detach from Stinking Thinking, Bullying, Codependency
How to Detach from Bullying, Stinkin Thinkin and Alcoholic Addictive Behavior
Whether you live with an alcoholic addictive person, or just someone who acts like one, with dry drunk, stinkin thinkin bully behavior, detachment is the key. To detach means to disconnect from and stay away from behavior which is sick and crazy.
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Alanon and the Blame Shame Game
The Blame-Shame Game is a term used in psychology and 12-Step recovery programs to explain behavior that is prompted by blame or shame. The blame-shame game is an avoidance and projection coping mechanism. Here's what it looks like and how to avoid it.
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Why Do Bullies Act they Way They Do?
Bullies believe that they are not bound by the same rules to which they bind others. This is referred to as the 'two sets of rules': one set for the bully and one set for everyone else. The bully controls both sets of rules and changes them as he wishes.
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AA Slogans for Emotional Health: Keep it Clean
Relationship and Emotional Health Help: Alanon Slogan 'Keep it Clean'
Al-Anon and AA (Alchoholics Anonymous)provide a great toolkit for emotional health. It's called the Al-Anon Slogans. Part of recovery from addiction or emotional illness includes 'Keeping it clean' in relationships.
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